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The Motivation,Purpose and Value of Having My Blog


I'm 22. I'm gay. I'm still in the closet, living two separate lives. 

I have had a blog during my college years back in the 2008/9, and it was written in Mandarin. I have abandoned the blog as I lost the motivation to keep writing there mainly because my readers knew me, as a 'normal', straight boy who was just a little bit more emo than a typical teenager. My sisters who read my blog back then will sometimes share what they have read with my parents, hence I couldn't really write about my innermost thoughts and feelings. 

I have always been an avid blog reader, sifting through blogs through blogs, especially those written by the other gays. They provided me with a sense of belonging, with updates about their lives, their relationships, their friends, etc. I envy the comments and the encouragements they received as they are able to share their stories to others whom they may or may not know outside the blogosphere. 

I believe that every person has their stories and they are all very unique and beautiful. I wish there will be someone out there who reads my stories and leave some comments from time to time. Or to put it crudely, I am just seeking attention. Nonetheless, it will serve as a journal for myself, so that in the future I will be able to look back and probably have a good laugh about how silly or cute I was. 

GOSH, I have just written four paragraphs and I sounded too formal I think! Now I realised that the hardest thing to write about is probably ourselves. I have so many things to tell and it's so hard to decide where to start and how much to share. How did you guys manage to write so well, so personal and engaging?




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Location: Sydney NSW, Australia

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  1. UnknownMay 13, 2013 at 12:18 AM

    Oh yes vthe hard part was to talk about one self especially in interview.

    Not sure if this helps but i write to express. Not to impress. It doesnt really matter to e if there is any reader out there. Gambateh, blogger from sydney~



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  2. untold stories May 13, 2013 at 12:41 AM

    Thanks for dropping by. This is the very first comment I received! :)

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  3. Da Closet GuyMay 21, 2013 at 3:30 AM

    I've bookmarked your blog!! Guess I'll be visiting your blog frequently (:

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  4. TerenceMarch 15, 2014 at 9:41 PM

    Just ran into this blog by chance, and was surprised to find that we might share much in common. Age, identity, a student in Sydney. My mother tongue is Mandarin. Why you switched to write in English? I'm curious. Does it stir different feeling using different languages?

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