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Mardi Gras dinner

steamed fish with garlic and soy sauce? very tasty!

Apple Chicken. Maybe the apple was shredded? I only had the chicken though


Finally got the chance to meet up with Hx ever since he got back to Sydney.

It was Mardi Gras parade last night, but both of us didn't feel like going to watch the parade. It was rainy, wet and cold in Sydney.

So, we decided to meet up anyway for dinner. He brought his bf's sis with him. Ok, I haven't gotten Hx's permission, but i guess he wouldn't know I am writing about him! (so unethical eh!)

So, Hx's bf is a Thai. During his recent trip to Thailand, he even visited his bf's parents. And, they were so super open about it. The bf was out to the parents already. But what shocked me was that the parents actually questioned Hx about his role- Top  or Bottom!

Anyway, the sis just came to Sydney to study too and so they are living together. I don't know how it works out with the sex part since all three of them are staying under the same roof.

It was good seeing you again Hx!

And, I had been chatting with this guy from Malaysia for the past few days. I didn't know much about him, except that he's from Malaysia, came to Syd last year and studying in the same field as me.

So, being the nice guy as always, and knowing that it's Mardi Gras, and that he's living with his relatives at a remote suburb (an hour away from city?), I asked if he wanted to join me and Hx for dinner at the city.

And I was glad that he said yes.

By the way, it's totally my style to ask a guy out. Not only are pictures on those apps deceiving, I also find it hard to engage in an interesting conversation with someone I just get to know over the app. There's only so much we can 'chat' about on the apps.

I prefer face-to-face. If you are a guy that cares a lot about blemish-free skin, then nothing beats meeting up, so that you can make an informed decision. If you care about a person's voice, then try listening to mine LIVE. If you want to date a 'real man', then you better make sure I behave like one, see how I walk, how i swing my arms, how i handle the cutleries, how i sanitise my hands before i eat and so on.

For me, personally, before I go through my checklist, there's something even more important.

I'm sure you have all heard about this term- 'down-to-earth'.

It means 'with no illusions or pretensions; practical and realistic' .

It's almost a cliche nowadays. People put it on their profiles because it looks good? And no one really cares what it really means.

Well, I like guys who are direct and straightforward, but you got to be sensitive and considerate. More about not-beating-about-the-bush kind of guys.

My point is, if you have successfully impressed me through the app, and you gave me the indication that you kinda like me, to friend me not fuck me,  then you better say yes if I ask you out!

For instance,

Mr A has made it clear on his profile that he's looking for fun.
He texted me on the app.
We exchanged a few msgs. And not wanting to waste his time, I told him, I am not for fun.
He replied and said it's totally fine, and that he's just making friends.
I texted back, 'Cool, want to meet for coffee?'
'Sure' he replied.
'How about this afternoon?'
'Hmm, I am kinda full on today, MAYBE sometime next week' he said

Haven't heard from him ever since then.

And THIS has happened many many times. Probably they might think I was being 'easy'? But if I was really interested in befriending you, why would I play hard to get?

Did I feel rejected? Not at all to be really honest. But I really despise guys who can't be upfront with their intentions and expectations.

So, back to my point, yes, a real man for me, is someone who is down-to-earth in a literal sense, direct and straightforward.

I really don't want to date a six-pack sissy shell.

Ever since I started this blog, I have made several new friends, especially some other bloggers. And I think an important factor is that we have all made our thoughts, our lives visible. And I was quite surprised when I discovered that some of the BLOGGING LEGENDS were so approachable and friendly.

Oh, so back to last night.

We had a good chat. Hx and his bf's sis just dumped us after the dinner! Well, he later explained that he wanted to give us space and time to date??!! LOL

Nothing as sweet as the HK guy la. But hey, making friends was the intent of meeting up in the first place.




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