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Coming out is something that I have always planned to do. What's better than being able to stop living two separate lives.

I've always been a family person. Since I came to Sydney 3 years ago, we have always made it a point to Skype or call each other. I always know the major news that's happening in Malaysia, it's still my Home regardless.

Last January, I even brought my ex home. I introduced him as my friend and created stories about how we met. I felt really really happy when I noticed that my family members actually liked him a lot. Inside me, I couldn't stop but to imagine how sweet it would be that day when my family finally bless us and we are walking down the path together. Unfortunately, that was also the time when our relationship was at the brink of failing.

To the couples friends I know, I always asked them the same question. 'Will you come out to your parents?' 'Why not?' 'Isn't it nice to have their blessings?' Some said no because they are afraid that their parents who are old will not be able to take it.

What do you think? Or are you out to your family already?
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  1. UnknownMay 30, 2013 at 2:38 PM

    my mum and brother found out... that was 5 years ago.

    there will be no one who loves you more than your mum.




    [Jino] - A man's not a man unless he knows how to shoot

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    1. untold stories May 30, 2013 at 5:24 PM

      That's so cool. Did you write an entry on that? I'm sure a lot of us will be interested to know more about your experience.

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    2. untold stories May 30, 2013 at 7:53 PM

      Ah sorry Jino. I have read your post on this and it was very well written. It took me a while to link Jino to your blog title haha :)

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    3. UnknownAugust 1, 2013 at 12:29 PM

      now it turns out that almost every one knows my sexual orientation.




      [Jino] - A man's not a man unless he knows how to shoot

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  2. Yours QueerlyJuly 30, 2013 at 12:21 PM

    I have the same notion as you. I just talked about this in my blog. I've been wanting to come out to them. All my friends know but not my family.

    I have a feeling that most parents actually know that their kids might be gay. It's just that they are waiting for you to tell them. If you don't, they choose to keep it away as long as possible.

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